Self-Confidence

No confidence..do you have that? My Revenue Law lecturer once said, it is normal, no one born and have enough confident. It should be build and need practice to improve. I got this kind of problem. Every time I got presentation, my whole body shaking! My teeth, my hands, my legs...o gosh..it is funny but I feel terrible..I can’t help it. When I smile, I don’t know if the smiley face come out, I think my face turn into something else..its not looks like I’m smiling..my face turn red..like udang rebus. I don’t know if the audiences notice it.

I really don’t like having assignment or project with senior. U know y? Because they are more advance, more knowledgeable than me. I don’t have the confident to speak out my idea & opinion..then I just listen the discussion and give opinion, complaining, agreeing in my head, talking to myself..useless. It means that I’m fear of rejection, criticism, being ignored! I’m fear of what people might think about me or about my opinion that make me feel worse.

I'm interested in an article wrote by Tessie Lim (founder of Tessie Lim Sdn Bhd) in New Sunday Times..it is about Building Self-Confident. Why on earth do we need to continue having no confidence? We even not see a pretty picture for the next 2 or 3 years if we are still like this. If confidence comes from doing well but we don’t do, how will we get good? If we think but don’t act, then feel frustrated..are we ready to change this pattern so we get a better result? We’re the one label ourselves as a ‘loser’. That's not we are, that's not all we are! So when people criticized it won’t make who we are, but what we think makes who we are. That's why it is important to think well of ourselves. When we do that, we feel good, we have energy, we want do things, we want do well. Its a virtuous cycle. We had the authority to chose. We can chose our feeling, we can chose our thoughts...the keyword being “I can”

http://tessieworld.com/